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What are some red flags to look for early in a relationship?

Jerryltan
4 min readDec 24, 2023

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1. He only dates you occasionally

Every few weeks, this guy will ask you out, and you always have a blast. He seems to enjoy your company too. But then you don’t hear from him for a while, and you don’t know when he’ll contact you again. This makes you feel excited and anxious at the same time, but also very insecure.

Listen, when a man is ready to build a lasting relationship, he will want to see you often. Even if he’s busy, he will find a way to meet you because he wants to get to know you and see if you’re compatible. He won’t keep you guessing or make you feel like an option.

So, if you haven’t seen him in a while, you need to rethink this situation. It’s a clear red flag that he’s not ready to commit. That’s why he keeps your relationship casual and sporadic.

Don’t fall for his excuses or his charm. If he hasn’t seen you in more than two weeks, gently ask him why, and he’ll either make an effort or give you a bunch of reasons that show he doesn’t like you as much as you think.

2. He refuses to introduce you to his friends

If he’s really interested in you, he will introduce some of his friends to you within two or three months. He will be happy that you can get closer to his life. This is an important step, because when you meet the people around him, you will learn more about him.

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